perception

As I was talking with a bunch of friends, who were comprised by a healthy mix of girls and guys, we somehow ended talking about guys. Well, by now of course, not only among my family I am known to be courting long lines of love affairs but never one to settle down, my friends du jour seem to notice it, too. Although the reasonings of why I am still single in my mid-thirties are quite vastly different between group A [consisted of mainly my parents] and group B [consisted of friends]. But I will go to those reasonings on another topic.

To continue on, it is a known fact that I have a standard regarding the men that I would give even the slightest second of my time. And this was discussed as our conversation somehow fell into the usual guys say girls are materialistic and the girls denied that vehemently and one of the guy pointed out to the girls that I never deny once that I am materialistic.

Well and so, it is true. I mean, let say if a guy ask me out on a date, I would expect him to pay for that date. All of it. All the time.
I see it common sense. If a guy cannot afford a meal for me and himself, if you continue to give him a green light, you are courting future headache. Like seriously, a meal is one of the most basic need to survive, not sex, and if he cannot afford even a meal for you. Better forget about the guy quickly. What do you expect in the long run with him?
Let's not be dreamy and think that someday he'd be able to afford it. By then, even if by stroke of luck he manages to come to a great wealth provision which made it possible to pay for meals for more than one person would not be a problem to him, most probably it'd not be your meal he'd be paying for.

To me it is common sense. And if by having this common sense I am called materialistic, I don't see any problem about it. I mean life comes with so many problems already, no need to court unnecessary ones, like being upset that your partner cannot bring home the bread, literally.

It is all about perceptions.